Dear Moms-It’s Ok
Last Updated on March 5, 2025 by Allison Lancaster
Dear Moms-
It’s ok. Sometimes we all need to hear it, right? As I was standing in my almost 4 month old’s nursery last night, tears flooded my eyes. I had packed away yet another onesie. Except this one, this one was special. It was his dinosaur footed onesie that I had dressed him in, time and time again over the past couple of months. This time I went to put him in it and realized that it would take some sort of a shoe horn to get him into it. Heaven forbid when I stumble in to change his diaper at 3 a.m. Tears flooded as I packed it away. My precious teeny tiny little boy, isn’t so teeny anymore. Time slow down! My husband rushed in and said two words…”it’s ok”. Sometimes we need to hear it, don’t we?
It’s ok…
It’s ok when you are getting ready for church, grab your baby up and have poop smeared down your “church clothes”, all over his bouncy seat and instead of getting frustrated-bust out laughing.
It’s ok not to let anyone babysit them for the first year (or three) of their life.
It’s ok to let your mom keep them when they are two days old for an hour…just so you can take a nap and a shower.
It’s ok to be a working mom.
It’s ok to be a stay at home mom.
It’s ok to be a work at home mom.
It’s ok to breastfeed.
It’s ok when you can’t exclusively breastfeed for various reasons. Including a low milk supply.
It’s ok to supplement with formula. Or exclusively formula feed them.
It’s ok to have a glass of wine.
It’s ok to spend the day in bed, cuddling that sweet baby and not doing a single load of laundry.
It’s ok to rush around while the baby is napping just to try and get the house in some sort of order before you husband gets home.
It’s ok to ‘shelter’ your baby just because you aren’t ready to share them with the world yet.
It’s ok not to have them on a ‘schedule’ at 4 months.
It’s ok to sleep when they sleep.
Dear, sweet moms–it’s ok! We are all doing the best that we can. We love our littles. We would do anything for them. The last thing that we need to hear is ‘that’s not ok’. So, today, I am telling you-it’s ok!
oh my gosh! I’m not a mom yet but reading this post you had me almost in tears…that onesie is adorable but think of all the other great outfits you can buy 😉 *enabler alert!!* lol
Oh you just wait! It is a love like no other…and oh the cute outfits…it’s probably a good thing I didn’t have a girl, I would be flat broke!
Same here. Not a mom yet, but I’m nervous about being too much of a people pleaser when I am!
You are the writer of this post!!! I love it! I was one of those 86 facebook sharers haha. I cant believe it was your first post, how awesome are you!!
Oh you are so sweet!! It all comes from my heart…I have truly fallen in love with writing and sharing! It’s so great to know there are others out there who feel the same way I do 🙂
One day at a time – one minute at a time sometimes
I love posts like these because they are so real. I share them on a moms group I’m on.
Awesome! Thank you for taking the time to read.
I am sure this is encouraging so many!!! You are right, it is OKAY!
Aww, this is absolutely beautiful! My kids are older now, but as each one came along, those feelings of “I’m doing this wrong.” increased. But hindsight is 20/20, and I realize now that second-guessing myself was totally unnecessary! You’ve put it so much more eloquently than I ever could 🙂
Give that sweet baby a squeeze for me!
I’m not a momma yet but I’ve had several friends tell me how hard it is to not feel guilty for the breaks from life they need as they care for their little one. This is such a precious time when your baby is growing. So, I say with you, “It’s ok!”
It is! It’s the hardest thing I have ever done! Thank you 🙂
I just wrote a blog about my only baby turning six!!! Talk about tears. There are lots of ways to be a mom and we should be faster to say It’s ok and support each other for sure!
Oh man! Time goes so fast, people say it, but I didn’t really understand until we had our little one!
Wow! That was beautiful. I’m not a mom yet, but it really touched my heart. Blessings!
It is okay! Life can be so full of emotional moments – and it’s okay to feel each emotion to it’s fullest before taking that next step forward to see what the future holds.
I keep telling myself it’s okay to get rid of the baby bottles with my third child. It’s so hard to say it’s okay to be finished. Insert tears. ????