When Mother’s Day Is Painful
Last Updated on March 5, 2025 by Allison Lancaster
I really contemplated even writing this post. Mother’s Day is a joyful time for so many, including myself…so part of me wonders if I even have a right to write this post? It’s my third Mother’s Day with our sweet little one and I get to also spend it with my mom.Needless to say, this is not a painful Mother’s Day for me…but, it is painful for so many people, including many that I care about.
Do we consider those who wish they could just go to sleep on Saturday evening and wake up Monday after Mother’s Day is over? Needless to say, this is not a painful Mother’s Day for me…but, it is painful for so many people, including many that I care about.
What about the mom who has lost her baby?
What about the child who has just lost her mom?
What about the child who has a mom who suffers from addiction, and just can’t seem to walk away from it?
What about the mom who has kids who are ‘too busy’ to spend time with her, or even call her on Mother’s Day?
What about the mom who is spending her first Mother’s Day without her husband of 30 plus years?
What about the mom who is spending Mother’s Day with her baby in NICU?
What about the child who is overseas fighting for our freedom and can’t be with their mom or wife?
What about the mom who is in a nursing home and her kids don’t even send her so much as a card?
Do we think about those people? While we are busy celebrating our special day with those we love~do we consider ‘the least of these’? We are supposed to! We are called to.
And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’ – Matthew 25:40, ESV
Jesus ate with the sinner, spoke to the hurting, took time for those that no one else did. Do we do that? I know that I don’t do it enough. If you are planning a wonderful Mother’s Day, will you commit to blessing someone else on your special day? Even if you just send a text to someone you know is hurting to let them know you love them and they aren’t forgotten on Mother’s Day.
So, what if you are one of the ones who is suffering? What if you are dreading Sunday? My friend, I cannot say it any better than the Scripture below does. He is near to you, He cares for you, and although it is painful now…joy is coming!
For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. – Romans 8:18, ESV
Perfect! We all have a tendency to be wrapped up in our own little world. Take time to look at the person beside of you and offer a kind word. We don’t know what they are going/have been through.
HAPPY FIRST MOTHERS DAY BABY!
I love you! Happy Mother’s Day!
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. -Psalm 34:18, ESV
So much truth here. This is a great post and reminder to be aware of the pain around us. Be blessed.
Personally, mother’s day used to be painful for me. Not only my own stupid choices, but then the loss of a child. I was bitter and resented those around me that were celebrating with their mothers and small children. Over the last couple years, the Lord softened my heart surrounding these issues. I’m excited for the opportunity to be a mom now, but moments still come up when I think “am I really worthy to care for such a helpless human?” “He trusts us to be parents???” The Lord provides for all that we need and that includes equipping us for being parents. Thank you for this post.
You are going to be the MOST AMAZING mom, sweet friend! I can tell the way you are with Levi-you and Brandon are naturals! Love you both!
This is so very true – I can’t imagine what it is like for those who don’t have the people they call Mum with them on such a day. x
Happy mothers day.
Deep post.
Enjoyed how you motivate action not just reads.
This is so true. Mother’s Day is all about them as well.
A friend of mine recently lost her mother it is just painful for her. I am sure she wish time could skip this day. So, I can imagine what others are going through. Makes want cherish my mom even more.
In hard times you have to turn to the Lord. He’s the only one who can provide
This is such a beautiful post, very well said. There are mothers out there that needs the recognition more than the most of us and they really don’t have the chance to be honored today, regardless of the pain they felt or are continuously feeling. I hope they get the chance, if not today, any day would be great. That will really lift their spirits and give them hope.
Happy Mothers Day to all of us, I wish everyday celebrate a mothers day not once a year
Happy mother’s day. This post teaches love and compassion
Mother’s Day can be hard for many people who has suffered a loss, But it can also be a time to remember how precious life is and make every moment count
Great post – I never really thought about how Mother’s Day can be a difficult holiday for some!
This is the great Holiday, Happy Mothers day!
It was a difficult mothers day in so many ways for my family as well. Its hard to remember the sad ones in the happy day <3
Happy MOther’s Day to you. In whatever situations we are here, I just hope that these are only temporary to test our patience and faith in the Lord. He is afterall, a good Father and we are all his children. He will never forsake us and leave us gloomy year round.
Thanks for this post. Mothers day to me is just a reminder that my mother is dead. She died many years ago and even now that I’m a mother I still hate mothers day and never celebrate it. Mothers Day is so commercial, you should show your mother you love her everyday and not just one holiday of the year.
I’m so sorry Mother’s Day is painful for you! You are right, we should celebrate our mom’s each day.